In the last few years, there has been an increase in people thinking about EQ or Emotional Intelligence.
the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.
It falls in line with the idea of having self-leadership. John Maxwell said, “He who thinks he leads, but has no followers, is only taking a walk.” If you want to be a leader, you need to have people following you. So then the question is, would you be willing to follow yourself?
This is where self-leadership comes in. Self-Leadership is defined by Bryant and Kazan as “the practice of intentionally influencing your thinking, feeling and behaviors to achieve your objective/s.”
In order to have good self-leadership, there are two areas that you need to focus on. Yes, there is probably a much longer list in other places but these are the top two.
- Self-Talk: What are you saying to yourself about yourself? “I can’t do that,” “I will never do that,” “it’s just too hard.” We are always talking to ourselves about ourselves. Watch and more importantly listen to your self-talk. (Related articles: How to Perform Under Pressure, The Power of "Yet": Self-Improvement.)
- Feedback: What is the first thought that you have about getting feedback? Most people don’t like feedback. If you’re going to grow your self-leadership you have to enlist people to give you feedback so that you can grow as a leader. Think of feedback as a way to look at your blind spot.
When we intentionally focus on growing our EQ and really start to follow ourselves, we will begin the process of growing our self-leader. Make it your goal to be a leader worth following.
Written by Jeff, Red Door Escape Room Southlake Manager
Published on March 10, 2017